In South Africa, recreational marijuana is legal for adults over 18. This has led to a boom in dispensaries with bright, inviting storefronts and clever names, making the purchase of marijuana seem as casual and safe as grabbing a coffee. 

However, this easy access can create confusion for children and teens, leaving them unsure about whether or not to use it. That's why it's important to talk to our kids about marijuana, giving them the facts, explaining the risks, and keeping the lines of communication open.

Start the Conversation
Talking to our kids about substance use is never easy. Still, it's one of the most important conversations we'll have as a parent. Believe it or not, our children will appreciate the fact that we care enough to talk to them about it. Start the discussion around age 10, but it's best to give simple, straightforward, and age-appropriate answers if a younger child asks about it.

As our children grow, make sure these keep going throughout their tween, teen, and young adult years. These chats don't need to be formal events. In fact, they're often more effective when they happen naturally, like when you're driving or walking past a local dispensary. The key is being approachable and ready to talk whenever the topic arises.

Be Honest
Kids are smart, and they'll probably sense if you're not being truthful with your information. Being honest doesn't mean you have to share every detail of your own experiences, but it's better to be upfront. This is an opportunity to explain that marijuana should only be used legally (for adults over 18 years of age), never to excess, and never in a way that compromises safety, like driving while under the influence.

The goal is to build trust so they feel comfortable coming to you with their questions and concerns. If they know you're going to be honest, they're more likely to rely on you than on potentially inaccurate information from friends or social media.

Listen
The most crucial part of any conversation is listening. Let your kids ask questions and encourage them to share what they already know, have seen, or heard from their friends. Listening shows you respect their thoughts and opinions and gives you valuable insight into what they're experiencing.

If your kids bring up the topic, make it a priority to engage with them immediately. Don't be too busy to talk, even if the timing isn't perfect. Being available and attentive shows them that this topic is worth discussing and that you're there for them.

Share the Facts
Kids often get their information from friends, TV, or social media, which means they might have a lot of misinformation about marijuana. That's why it's important to present the facts objectively, without exaggeration or scare tactics.

Here's how you can approach the topic:

• What marijuana is and how it's used: Explain that marijuana is a plant that can be smoked, vaped, or consumed in edible form. Be sure they understand the different ways it can be used.
• How to recognise marijuana and marijuana products: Talk about the different forms marijuana can take, from dried leaves to edibles that look like regular snacks. This knowledge can help them avoid accidentally consuming it.
• Why people use marijuana: Discuss the reasons people use marijuana, whether for recreational purposes, to relax, or for medicinal reasons. This helps them understand the context of use without necessarily condoning it.
• Side effects of marijuana: Make sure your kids understand that marijuana has risks. It can affect their mood, memory, and coordination and brain development.
• Why it's dangerous for young people: Emphasise that marijuana is especially risky for young people because their brains are still developing. Explain that using marijuana at a young age can increase the likelihood of addiction and can have lasting effects on their cognitive abilities.
• Risks of getting addicted: Talk about the potential for addiction, especially if used regularly. Make sure they understand that addiction can happen to anyone.

Offer Support
It's important to not be angry or judgmental. If your child feels like they're already in trouble, they'll be less likely to open up. Approach the topic with empathy and understanding.

If your child is experimenting with marijuana or feels pressure from friends to try it, ask them why. Listen to their reasons without interrupting, and then calmly explain your concerns. Ensure they know they can always come to you with questions or worries and that your main goal is keeping them safe.

Letting your kids know you're there to support them—without judgment—creates a safe space for them to talk about their experiences and make informed decisions. 

By staying connected and keeping the lines of communication open, you're helping them navigate a world where marijuana is increasingly accessible while ensuring they understand the importance of making responsible choices.